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Not all partners have the same desires and preferences, especially regarding having a pet at home. While having a furry companion can be a dream come true for others, some might not share the same enthusiasm.

So, what can you do if one partner wants a pet and the other doesn’t? Let’s explore typical concerns about having pets and discover the resolutions you can consider.

Typical Concerns About Having A Pet

Conflict with Other Pets

If you have an existing pet in the household, the doubts about having a new furbaby are understandably valid. 

You may not know, but many domesticated animals are territorial, and abruptly introducing them to an unfamiliar companion could be stressful (or potentially dangerous). 

Financial Struggles

Some may say having a pet is easier than raising a child, but that can be no further from the truth. One of the reasons why some partners are reluctant to welcome a furry friend into the house is the additional living cost it’ll incur. 

sleeping grey cat

Besides providing food and water, owning a pet means taking it to the grooming shop (if you can’t do it yourself) and making routine veterinary clinic visits. These expenditures also include necessary supplies like litter sands for cats. 

Lifestyle Changes

Like what experts from say, only date when you’re ready. You must observe the same virtue when adopting a new pet because it takes more than cuddles to take care of it. 

You need to commit time to take care of these furry housemates. Having a pet also include travel restrictions for you and your partner, especially if hired help is not an option.

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Finding Common Ground

Research About Pet Care And Responsibilities

If you’re eager for a pet, researching its needs and training requirements is an excellent way to show your commitment. Besides learning your responsibilities as a new pet owner, it’ll also give your partner an idea about it and possibly be an excellent convincing tool. 

Exploring Alternatives To Pet Ownership

Like every other relationship issue, you must reach a proper compromise if your partner is firmly against pet ownership. Volunteering in local animal shelters [1] allows you to live half your fur-parent dream. 

dog playing in the grass

Besides that, you can offer pet-sitting for friends or foster pets temporarily without a long-term commitment. Who knows? Your partner may warm up to the idea by doing these alternatives. 

Open Healthy Discussions

Communication is one (if not the most) effective way to resolve conflicts. You and your partner must openly and honestly discuss why you should have a pet and the relevant concerns about this new responsibility. 

Remember to practice active listening, empathy, and understanding as this talk ensues. These things can bridge the gap and help you find resolutions to the conflict. 

Seek Mediation to Resolve Conflicts

If it worsens and disagreements continue, seeking professional mediation for conflict resolution should be considered. Scheduling for couples therapy or having a neutral third-party opinion can guide and support you two in navigating all the pet-related conflicts. 


If one partner wants a pet and the other doesn’t, finding a compromise is essential to maintain a healthy and harmonious relationship. Address the concerns, research pet care, and engage in healthy discussions. 

No matter what solutions you end up choosing, the important thing is that respect is there for you and your partner’s needs and preferences.